3 Benefits of a Dating Project

by | Mar 2023

Hey, there heart-centered entrepreneur! I know ‘Dating Projects,’ might seem a little out of the left field, but I promise, it’s relevant to building strong business relationships while doing meaningful work. As heart-centered entrepreneurs, we aim to make the world a brighter place with our products, services, courses, and more. Collaborating with aligned people is so important for support, building our networks, and scaling our businesses.


As we grow and expand our networks and offerings, being a one-man show often stops being the easiest way to operate. That’s when we start to add subcontractors, contractors, and/or employees. Read more on whether an OBM or a VA, would be best for you and your business, here.


Adding team members enable our businesses to continue scaling while keeping our individual workload at a manageable level. In order to maintain our mission, vision, and values, working with others who have similar missions, visions, and values is invaluable. Just like we are all unique individuals, our business cultures are also unique.


Collaborating with like-minded entrepreneurs, employees, and freelancers is absolutely integral to building dream teams, boosting team efficiency, and maintaining a positive work culture. This is where the concept of dating before collaborating comes into play. Because, if we want to do meaningful work, doing it with others with the same goal is key.


What Does It Mean to Date (Dating Project)

What is dating? According to Merriam-Webster, to date someone means to make romantic social arrangements to meet with them. This is typically done with the intention of finding a long-term partner. Dating can be a way to get to know someone better and determine if you are both compatible. It can be a fun and enjoyable experience, or not…


However, whether or not to date is a personal decision that depends on individual preferences and circumstances. This article on eHarmony delves into the short and interesting history of dating in the western world. It sheds light on the important shift from transactional relationships to ones based on alignment and harmony.


Relationships can be hard for a variety of reasons, such as different expectations, communication issues, or simply not meeting the right person. It’s important to keep an open mind and focus on finding someone who shares similar values and interests. This builds a stable foundation for the relationship to grow on.


Business relationships can be challenging due to a variety of reasons similar to romantic and platonic relationships. These include miscommunication, conflicting interests, trust issues, differences in values, and cultures. Building and maintaining a successful business relationship requires effort, patience, and effective communication.


Why You Should Date Before Collaborating

Before you decide to form a long-term partnership with a significant other, you usually choose to date them first. We date to learn more about someone, the good, the bad, and the ugly. We want to learn more about the other person’s traits to determine if we would be a good fit together.


Dating allows us to learn how we can highlight each other’s good points and make up for shortcomings. Dating also enables us to determine if we are willing to go the mile or at least attempt it. Similarly, dating before officially starting a business relationship can be beneficial to both parties.


Traditional interview processes can feel like love at first sight. Although sparks may be flying, will the relationship be able to stand the test of time and communication? This is where ‘Dating Projects’ come in.


‘Dating Projects’ can be a fun and eye-opening experience. It’s a great way to test the waters and determine if your new contractor, subcontractor, or client, will be a great fit. Dating projects can help build a strong foundation of trust, understanding, and communication.


Short dating projects can also help identify potential deal-breakers or incompatibilities before you become too emotionally invested. While dating projects might not be the right choice for everyone, they are a great first step when working with new online service providers and clients.


Dating Project Benefit #1: Catching Missed Red Flags

Red flags are warning signs that indicate a potential problem or issue. During an interview, red flags can include things like inconsistent answers, negative body language, lack of preparation, or bad attitude. It’s important to trust your instincts and not overlook red flags in the interest of filling a position quickly.


All that glitters is not gold. That first impression may lead us to believe we have found our perfect unicorn online business manager (OBM), virtual assistant (VA), or client. Working together on a small project gives us the second chance to spot red flags.


Despite our best efforts, we often miss red flags during the interview or clarity call process. Dating projects enable us to catch possible red flags before committing to long-term collaboration. This also increases the likelihood of a successful and fulfilling relationship in the long run.


Dating Project Benefit #2: You Gain More Clarity on Your Needs

During the journey that is the hiring process, I often find that clients learn more about what they truly need. This is doubly so when it comes to dating projects. The one-on-one environment helps pinpoint that ‘needle in the haystack,’ contractor or subcontractor.


As opposed to a short interview or clarity call process, you are able to work one-on-one and get a better feel for each other. This enables you to learn more about which tasks, projects, and other areas of your business where you need assistance. The clarity you gain during this process is invaluable.


Dating projects position us for growth and aid in the visualization of your business goals. Even just learning what you don’t need, is a big step towards gaining more clarity on what you DO need. This exercise helps us focus on what is not negotiable and make better strategic decisions.

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Dating Project Benefit #3: You Gain More Insight Into How You Communicate

Another invaluable benefit of dating projects is the insight we gain into how both parties communicate and work through processes. Communication is important because it allows individuals to exchange information, express their thoughts and feelings, build relationships, and work together towards common goals.


Effective communication can help prevent misunderstandings and conflicts, promote understanding and empathy, and enhance productivity and creativity. Dating projects can help us learn how you communicate and work best with the right person. Having someone who you can communicate with, will facilitate the process of making your vision a reality.


By gaining clarity on how you communicate and work, you will be better equipped to make decisions and take actions that align with your needs and goals. With a strategically thought-out dating project, you are able to learn how you both communicate, work, and whether you complement each other.


This is an opportunity to see how you collaborate together and how you both bring out the best in each. The dating period is an insightful period to learn how you can improve in the future and do more meaningful work.



As heart-centered entrepreneurs, with the goal of doing meaningful work in our global and local networks, collaborating with like-minded individuals is crucial. To facilitate change in our communities, teamwork is key, as we scale our businesses and increase our impact. With our unique businesses and business cultures, collaborating with like-minded freelancers and entrepreneurs is vital. ‘One-size fits all’ just doesn’t cut it!


Finding the right team members takes just as much effort as it does to find the right partner romantically or platonically. This is where the concept of dating before collaborating comes into play. Because, if we want to do meaningful work, doing it with others with the same goal is vital.


The interview process, or a clarity call, can be similar to love at first sight. It can even be reminiscent of that magical first impression you get of a romantic partner or new friend. While you may see all right signs, you still need to determine if long- or short-term collaboration will be in both parties’ best interest. We need to back up those ‘sparks,’ and ensure they’ll endure.


‘Dating Projects’ give us this increased insight into what collaborating with a freelancer, entrepreneur, or agency will be like. This is super important to gauge if there were any red flags we missed during the interview or clarity call process. We also benefit from the experience by gaining more clarity on our own strengths, weaknesses, and needs. Finally, you learn more about the other party, their strengths, weaknesses, and how they can support you and your mission.


Are you ready to make the world a brighter place, while increasing your impact and income? Let’s get on a call, here, so we can chat about how can Ellyvate your business to the next level. We love working with aligned entrepreneurs to bring your vision to life! What is holding you back from getting on a call with an Ellyvated online business manager?



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